Love by Other Names
John Alan Lee's Analysis of love
Includes Six Styles of Love
a. Ludos: game-playing love.
b. Eros: romantic, passionate love.
c. Storge: affectionate, friendly love.
d. Mania: possessive, dependent, "crazy" love.
e. Pragma: logical, pragmatic love.
f. Agape: unselfish, brotherly love.
According to Lee, people display the same characteristic style of loving in most of their intimate relationships. In your discussion group, identify and discuss which style of love is represented by each of the following statements:
1. I could never love another person as I love her/him.
2. If he/she left me, I think I would kill myself.
3. You have to like a girl/boy a lot and admire her/him before you can really love her.
4. One of the advantages of going away to college is that you can have both a campus love and a hometown love.
5. If it makes her/him happy, I will give up my plans to be a teacher and choose a career that pays better.
6. I chose this college because I thought it would be a good place to meet the kind of woman/man that will be an asset to me in my career.
7. I get very excited about guys/girls until they start to talk about being in love and getting married, then I get bored.
8. We're just made for each other. And to think if I hadn't gone back to the bookstore for a notebook that day, I might never have met him/her.
9. We've liked each other and enjoyed doing things together for a long time, and now we've decided we're in love.
10. One look at that dump where his/her parents live convinced me that he/she isn't the one for me.
11. If you really love someone, you would rather suffer yourself than see her/him suffer.
12. The woman I marry is going to stay home and take care of the house. I don't want her in some office where the males don't care whether a woman is married or not.